The Hard Gets Easy

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It’s hard when we first walk away. When we bend down and begin to pick up our broken pieces. It is hard when the questions start to get asked, having to explain the whole ideal. It’s hard to look at yourself in the mirror. It’s hard to deal with the emotions of embarrassment, guilt and shame. It’s hard to try and live a normal life. IT’S HARD!!

It’s hard when you try to remember the person you were before it all began. When you try to get the “old you” back. Truth is, from my own personal experience, the “old you” never fully returns. It isn’t necessarily a bad thing, because the NEW YOU is better, stronger and wiser. You take back all your amazing qualities and characteristics; the great personality, the wonderful sense of humor,  the caring, loving, kind, and confident person you once were. Those parts of you never left, they just got pushed to the background for a period of time.

It’s hard, but let me tell you, it does get easier.

You will find each day gets a little easier to deal with. You will find it easier to laugh and easier to smile. You will find it easier to look at yourself in the mirror, and will even find yourself telling your reflection just how awesome you are. Yes, there will be both good days and bad days, but all in all they all get easier to deal with. You will see your confidence coming back. You will have your dreams and goals and will set out to do everything you can do achieve them. The broken pieces of you start to come together with the new pieces of you. Through your healing you will learn more about who you really are.

I escaped from my relationship a little over ten years ago. I was told by my ex himself that if I had not left when I did, I would most likely be dead. ( You can read my story here: )

It took me years to deal with that situation head on. It isn’t something that can be rushed. It took me several more years after that to actually tell the complete details of it. And as of September 2015 I felt the need to share it with the world. With a little help and motivation from a great friend.

So believe me when I tell you: The Hard Gets Easy

6 Comments Add yours

  1. It is hard!!! Great post!


  2. Winky Dinks says:

    The cycle of abuse is a very hard thing to break but the more survivors speak out, the more the world listens. Abusers want to silence victims. I commend you on a wonderful blog and hope it reaches more people, and enlightens others. If we speak out, then more victims can become SURVIVORS! Well done 🙂

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    1. Thank you so much for your wonderful comment! It means so much to me when I receive these comments. My hopes in writing these blogs is that more survivors WILL break the silence. 🙂

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  3. An up-lifting, encouraging and positive post – you are testimony to the fact that ‘hard gets easy.’ Applauding you and my best to you. ~ Wendy

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  4. Thanks for another great post.👌
    When I woke up that morning and realized he had moved everything that belong to him out of the house I was terrified, I was in stress overdrive I mean I was screaming on the inside with fear, pain, and I was just so ashamed and embarrassed that after 32 years with this man that he could just walk away and leave me with nothing. It was like he was saying I was dead to him. He had been denying me money to buy food, he was starving me. He left because he realized that I was talking to a neighbor and she was giving me food and advise. He knew I was no longer keeping our secret.
    I’ve calmed down now a lot, and I have a great deal still ahead of me; but I can say it does get easier.💜

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    1. Thank you for sharing your part of your story! It takes a lot of courage! I am proud of you!! 💜


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